Integral Life Coaching

Our True-self

Leave a comment


(460 words – less than 3 min read)

I believe, when we show our true-self and connect through our true-self we always look beautiful.

I started reading the book “Presence” by Amy Cuddy recommended by a friend who has a deep understanding of life and amazing love for life.

The book is about Amy Cuddy’s years of research as well as others’ research studies on how our true-self can tell our true story and connect us with others positively. Her research shows our body language says our true story on occasions that we are either very ready for next step or not ready but try to convince ourselves and others that we are ready. Her research also shows how even when we are ready, the anxiety can cover us all over and stops us from moving forward and how we can practice self-belief and connect with our true-self to overcome the anxiety and present ourselves fully and truly.

Reading her book and every new book shows me a new dimension of life. Every new book gives me a deeper understanding of life. I am now looking at a lot of events in my life and in my story from a different angel. Were I present at the moment in each event? I try to add to or edit the story from this new angel, trying to explain when I did not present at all, when I did not present fully and when I presented truly. All those moments of either rejection or success have built my story and who I am now. But now I feel a big joy when I remember those moments that I offered my presence fully and truly to life.

By sharing fascinating experiences, Cuddy shows how we can practice to be present in the moment.   

I am so excited to finish this book. Every page of it gives me more hope for more inner-peace by learning how to be present at the moment and to be honest with myself. Here there is an excerpt from her book.

“Before heading into a situation where we may be challenged, we can reduce our anxiety by reaffirming the parts of our authentic best selves we value most.

When we feel safe with ourselves, we become significantly less defensive and more open to feedback, making us better problem solvers, too.” Amy Cuddy – Presence

Trusting life and outcomes of each event even the painful ones gives us more inner peace. It doesn’t mean we put up with nonsense or we don’t feel the pain, it purely means we believe in ourselves and use the power of authentic-self positively to make changes and to move forward. Changes are essential to our life. We need to welcome them and be present when they arrive!


Celebrate life!


Editing Credit: M. Curtis

Picture credit:

Author: Shabnam

Shabnam Curtis was born and raised in Tehran, experiencing the Iranian Revolution of 1979 firsthand. In 2004 she immigrated to the United States, where she now works as a passionate life coach and a writer. Shabnam is a certified Integral Coach with New Ventures West and International Coaching Federation. She offers one-on-one coaching sessions as well as workshops for groups. Since September of 2021, she also has been the life coach in residence for Dimension Science Bridges Non-profit organization.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s